I have been holding back commenting on the ignorance, stupidity, and every reason why people should not get married by watching these reality shows. Also, in hindsight, why do couples get on reality shows after witnessing couple after couple get a divorce, get caught cheating, or whatever have you in hopes of becoming famous. My major question is why is any one whether husband or wife complaining about the other cheating with quote on quote a jump off. Ill say it like this, it more than likely isnt the jump off that is with your significant other. Their are plenty more probably in line that you just don't know about regardless, and even if you did, than you have no right after looking at the statistics to really have a problem with it. Couples in these relationships agreed to the exposure and now have a problem when it comes back to bite them in the butt. But one thing I have notice about the housewives and the guys is that they have found thousands more men and women looking to take their place with their significant other, and guess what they are all taking the cheese. The problem behind this is the fact that if it happen to them; than it will surely happen to the jump off. Now the one that is going to stay in the picture is the one that allows or condones it to happen. People are being more mindful now not to jump into marriage or a relationship. People are more mindful that their is a lot more variety out in this world, other than going through the stress of home. Does it mean it's right!! After a while it simply can't be wrong, because a custom or pattern eventually becomes a norm in society. Cheating is no longer in this present day society looked at the way it was a decade ago. The internet, more people coming out of their closets, and overall people finding out that maybe they are just not right for each other, and whatever have you. Evelyn, I'll have to give her some credit. She knows her position but she has been on both sides as the jump off as well as the significant other. Did it really work well for her, we'll I guess so, she is able to jump from pro player to pro player, and doesnt give a fuck. Now the reason you can respect her is the fact that she has experience in what she is getting into, isnt playing the kiddy games she used to play with others, and has a attitude that most would enjoy if they was her significant other. Trust and believe hate comes with the territory and how you handle it; shows the measure of resolve toward anything and anyone.
Jennifer off the basketball housewives. I'm sorry but I really dont believe you didnt take those pics and send them out. You was poised for your cell phone, and im sure you wasnt sending out to yourself or your hubby. Now was it really dumb, "Yes" idiot, you are going through a divorce that hasnt been filed yet. What attorney on this planet would advise you to put all your business out in public like that. Let the ink dry on at least the seperation and you have yet to accomplish either. Also, why are you mad about your busband cheating now, oh I get it, its because you are famous now and now you are in position to leave what you condone. Now thats cool but admit it that you was only there for the money; and now you have a chance to make the same amount or more than do your thing. Just stop saying you didnt leak the pics, because I can't simply believe the bullshit that comes out of your mouth. You want people to believe that you are innocent; and its nothing wrong with being sexual, but stop getting on others for the very exact thing you been publishing. Snap Snap is what I can only think of. Most people will respect the fact that you did it because of _____________, and saying you was hacked is b.s. You also mention you wouldn't pose for playboy. You was posing for free, so what, accept it and move on like the rest of the world has that has a sex tape or nude pics on the net. Its no longer a big deal. Back in the day "yes" it destroyed careers. Today, its what is needed to make careers. Does this do more harm than good for our society. In a way it does, but how can we tell our sons and daughters not to, when we have this being the way to make it big in a celebrity status. We will always have Kim Kardashian, Pamela Anderson, and many more including Usher to thank that doing a sex tape can make you famous, rich, or with celebrity. It is harder for parents to say do the right thing when you have others getting paid millions for doing this type of thing. So maybe these celebrities as well as politicians, should acknowledge that when they invite them to the white house. Some of these same ones have been at a presidential dinner, so its no excuse to use a sex tape or nude pics as the all time destroyer of someone life.
Now Shaunie O'neal a primary instigator, like the whole Matt Barnes and Gloria thing wasnt going to set off ratings for your show. Also I think you was really fucked up for telling Evelyn to go back and tell Tammy what she had done, acourse for more ratings on the show. Evelyn; as real as you are, you are fucked up! You should never tell anyone business whether your own or with someone else without getting the permission from whom you was in the bed with. I'm sure when you was dealing with Kenny aka Tammy husband, that you knew he was married for one, and two that it was not suppose to be leaked out. How can anyone trust sleeping with anyone that don't know how to keep their mouth closed. Also fellas need to learn from this; especially with dealing with ladies nowadays. Their use to be discretion, but discretion only applies with the money being placed on the line. Shaunie, thats just some shaddy shit that only a drama queen would do. Instead of having others put their business out there, than why dont we see the true side of you. Your problems isnt with Gloria, but with her sister. So stop making her try to be your side kick to revenge.
Now to Gloria ass! Matt Barnes along with Lamar Odom, with Shannon Brown is the dumbest basketball players in the world. Maybe if they spend more time on their game instead of dealing with reality t.v. Maybe they would be starting instead of warming up the bench. All three on the bench. I think Phil Jackson did the right thing. You can't be basketball stars second, and reality stars first and expect to start on his team. Also to all three of these basketball players, which I'm sure they have other ladies on the side like usual. Their is nothing special about Gloria, Khloe, or Monica that the other's that dated them didnt know. But you married them because of their name reputation to increase your ego at the expense of knowing when you retire, your relationships will retire. They can only be with you as long as you are on a pro team. I expect your relationships not to last that long by far, before Lamar takes Matt place on the assault and battery list, and Shannon takes their place on probably dating one of their ex. I'll suggest to each of these ballers to find a sexy wife that is into women in their bedroom, and that controls the publish outcry of your business hitting the streets from a jump off. Also it saves you from lying and telling your wives that you are the only one. Also the wives have no excuse, to say they left them for cheating. They knew this going in so its no need to feel sorry for them.
Royce... let the haters hate. They have all fucked a basketball player for their reputation, money, and finances. Their is nothing different from what you do and did, and what they have done. They all are in the same boat. Stay doing your thing, and if they really had some brains would be asking you how to keep the fire burning in and out the bedroom. Now as you grown older, as they will as well, you learn more on being the dream in a relationship and not the nightmare. I have respect for any woman that says its time to have fun; and its no point of worrying about other women, instead join them. You right too many got a stick up their ass, and thats only because people hate others to get attention. Trust and believe if they have nude pics and more out their than you can't say it was you that help put it out there.
Last and not least Tammy. You really seem depressed and still living in the past. Your hubby has long left you and has moved on with life. You are still caught up worrying about jump offs along with the others. We learn more and more what these guys go through to decide to be with a complete opposite. Yes jump offs is there for pleasure, and maybe if people in general, and just not women put more time into that, than they wouldnt be experiencing the factors that come with it. Some worry about going to buy a dress, and forget all about Victoria Secret, and all the "Adult" playgrounds. Tammy now back to you again, get over it. You really making yourself look dumb, and a clear reason why men and women don't want to get married or commited. Those on the opposite end, has seen your attitude and actions, and dont have time for that type of liability. Don't be mad for someone doing the job that you can't do and thats simply real talk.
Also to Chad Johnson aka Ochocincho, I could care less if I have it spelled right. I understand why the quarterback in cincinnatti wants to be gone. He has reality stars as football stars. Get back to business on your game. Terrell Owens is the only one I see that can do both a reality show and still make a difference to their football team. You had probably the worse most unproductive season after your reality show. Maybe, its time to get back to what made you famous, before Evelyn does what she does, get with someone a little more important than you in her mind. Just "Real Talk". You put too much bullshit in your life with this one. It's ok to fuck, but dont be a idiot. Maybe you should learn from the ones that decided not to put the ring on the finger. More than likely halfway in between the truth really can be told to why they said Stop and do not collect 200 dollars. Put your team first, have whatever fun on the side, but get back to business.
My personal message out to all the Basketball Housewives, Housewives, Husbands, and Boyfriends in general. Do your thing, but cheating is no longer a good enough reason to use against you or someone else in a relationship; that you was personally involved with in obtaining such exposure. People look good; and you married what looked good to you, as well as what would look good to others. Does this give them the excuse to cheat? No!! It always has to be something more than just look good and someone else looking good to them. When people decide to look for outside options is because they feel that they have exhausted all options at home or in their relationship. It has to be constant communication and it cant be all about the finances. As well as men, shouldnt use finances as a means of control also in order to deter a solid relationship built off love; and not off money. Their are many factors why your relationships broke up, and if you sat down and had a "Real" conversations with others; similarly situated, than you would notice that their is more in common than it isnt. "Its like a big factory of recycle hate." Take more time, finding someone that is for you in all ways, instead of some ways. It seems like most of the some ways are purely financial.
Also, to those that are parents. Realize your kids will be grown, and use your antics right against you. Well if mommy and daddy can do it, than why can't I. So dont act like its not expected to happen; when it really does happen. The bedroom use to be private. The key word "use" to, and the examples being show is nothing but public displays. So you can't expect anything to be sacred or private, if you are the living meaning of representation of public information and more transparency.
Also, to the porn stars, adult stars, prostitutes, or whatever have you in the sex industry. Do not let your job in this present day have any affect on what you do or what you can get accomplish in the future. You have enough well respected celebrities and more with sex tapes and still doing fundraisers, showing up at the white house, and more. They all got a contract that paid for their sex acts; whether private or public. You should always keep your head up and never let anyone degrade you because of your job; because everyone been doing it for as long as you was born. Also in your jobs and in life, try to be a productive citizen no matter what! Kim Kardashian, Ray J, and many more have walked in your shoes to the fullest extent; and still came out of it with their head held high. So anytime someone wants to say anything negative, than tell them how many others that played your roles has been positive.
In the end, the world has changed. We are accepting the past deviant side to now be norms of society. The social order and contracts has changed; and with it, than we must all learn to adapt. We have to now figure out ways to deal with the present, because the past has no sympathy for us at all. Our success is being measured off of how much money we make, and not the mistakes that we make. In closing, we need to re evaluate the very things that has lead us to us bitterness, and find ourselves truly in our pleasure. Life is too short to be worried about ghosts that haunt us, and we will eventually suffered the same faith, no matter how significant our body, but our true consequences come with the soul. So if anything is taken from this blog, than stop making excuses for the things you already clearly know. You have "prior and constructive" knowledge now, so when things repeat itself, than stop playing the victim.
By Merle Rutledge
